En ma esprit

I'm tired of reading this line on Facebook: " Ek tarfa pyaar ki taakat hi kuch aur hi hoti hai. Aurron ke rishton ki tarah ye do logon mein nahi banti. Sirf mera haq hai ispe". Translation: "The power of one sided love is unique, it doesn't get distributed to two people, as it happens in the relationships of others, only my right is there on it". ' Ae Dil Hai Mushkil' translated as 'O Heart It Is Difficult' has probably been successful in encouraging unrequited love. Well, that isn't healthy. This is one of the many ways in which movies can mess with our minds, to make us do things that aren't prudent. Far from being tender and noble, unrequited love is really painful if the lover doesn't move on. How is that wise? Pursuing someone so that they will love you is not going to make them actually love you, the way you want them to. Even if one doesn't pursue, the decision to never fully move on and allow oneself the possib...

When we are at a point when we feel overwhelmed by so much going on,  changes we need to prepare for; decisions to make, we must not forget to deal with our past. The past is like a shadow always with you even if you want it to go away. We cannot make a fresh start without tying up loose ends and dealing with our demons. The negative stuff is what teaches us the most. All the hurt, pain and regret makes us feel vulnerable but we realise that it's fine to feel that way. We can't always be happy. The scars left behind from past experiences are reminders of what almost broke us. They also remind us of what we overcame. Most of the time we tend to surprise ourselves with what we can endure. We underestimate ourselves so much. When we are stuck in a vicious circle of negative experiences, it's hard to keep the faith but that's when it's most required. When the clouds finally move away and the skies clear, it can be hard to believe it. Expecting negativity becomes...