Jealousy

Jealousy is when one feels insecure, fearful or concerned because of a lack of possessions or safety. The negative thoughts that arise when one sees someone having a fancy car or a special significant other. The reason why this happens is because of comparison with another. When one is not satisfied with what they have, they get jealous of what another person has, be it a thing or a position. 

How many people blatantly ask someone how much they are earning? Is it an appropriate question? The question is, why does someone want to know how much a person is earning? People ask such a personal question because they want to know whether they earn more or less than that person. If that person earns more than them, they get jealous.

How much jealousy is too much jealousy? If a person starts to curse someone because they are jealous of them, then that is definitely crossing the line. Such kind of people will never be happy as they will always think that they don't have enough or they are not successful. Instead of competing with others, isn't it better to compete with oneself?

Competition with others causes jealousy, but competition with oneself causes one to just aim for a better life tomorrow as compared to today. As long as one has realistic goals, one can achieve them and progress in life.

Some people tell others that they are jealous of them, which is often perceived as a compliment. "I love your handbag''. "Oh, I'm so jealous of you!" Such people want to make someone feel special for having something that they are jealous of, be it a possession, a position or a title.

How does one deal with jealous people? Perhaps telling them that you know that they are jealous of you is good. They might get defensive, but for how long? Another way would be to appreciate them, that way they will like themselves and reduce being jealous. Also, tit for tat might work. If they get jealous of you or something you have, you pretend to be envious of them or something they have. Giving them a taste of their own medicine might work. 

How do jealous people deal with jealousy? Jealous people need to be happy with what they have instead of comparing themselves with others. In this way, they won't feel jealous. It's impossible for someone to never get jealous of another. It's part of being human. It's only when it gets out of hand that the problem starts.

A lot of self love and self worth is needed in order to deal with feelings of inadequacy because of being jealous. Being in touch with one's insecurities and doing the work to get rid of them is required. Loving oneself enough is the key.